What makes a house a home are the people harmoniously living in it. However, it will be challenging to achieve that if the family members are not behaving correctly. And if they are not really working towards that goal. Sit down, reflect, and think about your habits. Are they affecting your family relationships positively or negatively?
Here are some bad habits you may have that affect the harmony in your home.
Every stable relationship is founded on honesty and integrity. So, if you are often lying to your partner to skip out on chores, or lying to your parent to avoid punishment, then you are negatively affecting your home. And do you know that lying can be learned? Children will more likely develop dishonestly if they often see their parents lying.
As Carl E Pickhardt Ph.D. puts it, “When a family leader models dishonesty for the kids, whether that adult does it at home or out in the world, then dishonesty is what some of these vulnerable youngsters may feel encouraged to emulate and follow.”
So before you think of lying to your partner about being busy or about financial matters, think twice. Then ask yourself, “do I want my children to lie to us too?” Also, telling the truth, although it sometimes hurt, is easier than lying. It is less stressful too.
Do you find yourself becoming irritable and annoyed at all times? Do you notice that you are shouting or stomping around your house too? Then pause, take a deep breath, and reflect because this attitude is affecting your family dynamics.
As a parent, being angry often has an emotional and mental toll on your children. Anger and aggression are learned behaviors that your kids can pick up from their primary role models, which are their parents. Several studies have already been done. Most of them have shown that early exposure to violence influences a similar behavior in children.
Anger issues in children and adolescents do not only present at home but also in other environments. They may find it challenging to develop relationships with other people and find themselves always in trouble in different social situations. So try finding better ways to channel your anger and seek professional help before it worsens.
Need To Be Always Right
The basic family structure is composed of parents and children. Each of these members has their own opinions and thoughts. A harmonious relationship works if everyone has a voice and is heard. Although sometimes, the parent or the child has this constant need to be always right, which affects your family relationship.
Often, it is the parent who wants to always get the final say. They are the elders, after all, and they must be respected and obeyed. However, this must not always be the case. Because contrary to the belief that parents know best, children may know better, especially when it is about themselves.
Also, it is the kid’s right to be heard and to participate in deciding matters that affect them. Furthermore, silencing your child’s voice may affect the development of their self-esteem, making it difficult for them to trust their own abilities.
And when you always let your child be right all the time, then you are not helping them grow too. What is needed to make a harmonious home is a proper balance between the parents’ and children’s voice. When you find that, you will also notice how easy it will be to be around the members of your family.
Respect plays an essential role in bringing harmony to your home. Elders always use age to explain why they must be respected, but age does not really matter. What you must remember is that everyone deserves to be regarded, even your kids.
When you do not show respect to your children’s opinions, later on, they may start disrespecting you too. Remember that you are the primary role model at home, and children will more likely grow up to be like you too.
Showing disrespect will not only affect how your kids behave at home but also in other social environments too. And when you hear other people that your children are rude, take that as a reflection of yourself too.
But, being disrespectful may not be learned from home but also from peers too. So, as a child or teen, think about how you talk with your parents.
Do you notice that you raise your voice at them often? Do you ignore their advice even when you know it is for your well-being? If you say yes to your questions, think about how you can change these behaviors and start to show respect to all members of your family.
Promoting harmony in your home starts with the willingness of each member of the family to achieve this goal. These habits are just some of the many that you should change to have an enjoyable and stress-free life with your family.